The Ravenanda Files 03.10.10

Do not waste even 1-minute on relationships that do not serve you. Bless them and then move on. What we need to determine and discern however, is which of those relationships are in fact there as our teachers and which ones simply demean us. Not every relationship serves as a teacher for us, unless we include the very important lesson of teaching us who we do not need in our lives. I have spent many years agonizing over this issue. In the process I have learned a thing or two. This is mostly what I have learned: A large percentage of people who "get on my nerves" are my spiritual teachers. I have learned, for the most part, how to spot them. One easy pointer is that even though I may find them irritating, they do not abuse me in any way. I have also discovered that a significant number of people get on my nerves because they are immature, judging, mean-spirited people who are there precisely to teach me to become more selective about who I bring into my precious life, my precious circle of Light. These people are almost always abusive to me in some tangible way. A small percentage of these people do not realize they are being abusive. I can and do work with them. The rest know they are being abusive. I now choose to not work with them. Yes, at my current level of consciousness it is definitely a choice. When I was less awake I could not make such a choice. I believed I needed to suffer in the name of being "spiritual" or "a good person." A teacher is not abusive. A friend is not abusive. A supervisor should not be abusive. The right partner is not abusive. Fellow members of an organization should not be abusive, if its an organization you have any kind of future with. If we have any of these people in any area of our lives it is very likely that the life lesson for us there is to learn discernment and/or the toughness to make the decision to eliminate people from our lives and/or to learn how to stand up for ourselves in the presence of unconscious people in our lives.

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